Tips on Self Esteem Building?

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self esteem building.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board (Stay with me on this!) Everything and everyone else
around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won't realise is happening. Don't let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of "dog eat dog" theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This
is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.

Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem building. Competition is at stake anywhere.
Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People's Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers, all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self esteem building and improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can't be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests
our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life
difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve
our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It's okay to cry and say "ouch!" when we experience pain. But don't let pain transform
itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure
and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you're looking at. Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativities of
the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst
situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your
inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental
surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends.

You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn't mean you have to be
a failure too. Learn from other people's experience, so you'll never have to encounter
the same mistakes. Self esteem building requires you to not blame other people but to observe successful people who have experienced similar problems.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers.

NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Self Esteem building and drawing
lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn't come down
from heaven and tell you - "George, you may now have the permission to building self
esteem and improve yourself."

In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling
you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring
and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life's options give us arrays
of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet
proof armor ideally means 'self change'. The kind of change which comes from within.
Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our
way of thinking.

Self Esteem building will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become
responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should
gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem,
we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self
improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the
building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative.
Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build
self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.